In the past couple of months, the baby boom all over my Facebook news page has been tremendous! Babies, babies, everywhere!!! It's so exciting to see and hear about the countdowns as all these awesome ladies prepare for their little ones to arrive, which of course is followed up by all the heart-melting pictures of the new bundles! I can admit all these babies leave me feeling a bit nostalgic about all those amazing moments and joy they bring. And it also makes me look at our three, growing, healthy, beautiful children, and think, "WOW!", we've come a long way! I hope you won't mind me pressing the rewind button...as I reminisce about tid-bits from my own journey into mommy-hood three (
and a half) times around.
~I was barely 19 when Caleb was born. Crazy, right?!! I had NO CLUE what to expect, but I guess you can say, when the time came my "natural, maternal instincts, kinda kicked in...
Thank God. Of course, my Mom was also there to help. (Probably struggling through serious bouts of shock, but she was there.) Again, Thank God. And on July 10, at 4:25 am, I became a mother for the first time. It's funny how in an instant, what I had originally (and foolishly) thought to be one of the biggest mistakes I had ever, or would ever make, was suddenly transformed into a pure miracle. After 9 long months, and swinging from what was honestly the most depressed place I've ever been to one of the most amazing, blissful places I can imagine, I had done it. I was a mom. A miracle was placed in my hands. A miracle that in one, quick moment, I knew beyond any shadow of a doubt, no matter what anyone else said or thought, was indeed no mistake. He was perfect. Beautiful. A healthy, 9 lbs. 10 oz. And in that instant he filled my heart and soul with a love that was absolute and completely immeasurable. Sure, the timing might not have been the greatest... but just look at Caleb now!?! He was MEANT to be.
~Shortly after Matt and I were married, our suspicions were confirmed that we were expecting again. In true M & M fashion, we had not planned on another pregnancy... but, hey! Caleb was almost two at the time, so it seemed like a nice fit for our little family. Obviously, there was another plan intended for us...as at 16 weeks we got the news that I had miscarried. I don't really talk about that experience often, as it was truly heart wrenching, but I do actually think about it quite often. So now when an expectant Mommy shares the news that their first major ultrasound was a good one, I breathe an extended sigh of joyful relief for them. Because I know what the alternative feels like. And for me, in those two days, from the moment the ultrasound tech. grew quiet and left the room, to when Matt and I walked out of the hospital on that warm July morning, I knew I was forever changed. It's difficult to put the thoughts and feelings into words, and it makes me tear up just thinking back on those very vivid memories... but, I find comfort in knowing that without the loss of that baby then, we wouldn't have Brady now.
~Brady, Brady, Brady. I have to say the journey through a pregnancy after having a miscarriage is such a mixed bag of emotions. Every twinge, pain, "unusual" symptom throws you into a super scary "what if" mode. While, at the same time, each week that comes and goes is a joyful accomplishment. It's exhausting! It took me a while but when the personal milestone weeks of 14, 15 and 16 were safely past, I finally let hope sink in that this time we might be ok. I can clearly remember being in the waiting room on ultrasound day. My nerves were so on edge. It wasn't until the tech had pinpointed that glorious little flutter on the screen, that I allowed myself to breathe. A strong heartbeat... we could see it... hear it... and everything else checked out perfectly as well. A boy, with a big head! And the October 24 due date was right on target. So on target in fact, that at 4:25 am on October 24th, I rolled out of bed, and barely made it to the bathroom when I was surprised with a sudden jerk...followed by a gush of fluids! WHOA. I think I stood there for a good minute, gathering my senses and putting the puzzle pieces together. "Oh my gosh, oh my gosh, oh my gosh!"..."Honey? It's time!" I've never seen Matt so quick to be out of bed, dressed and in the car! Less than ten hours later, at 2:06 pm, our big-headed (
OUCH!), healthy boy was in our arms. Another miracle... and another MEANT to be.
~March 2008, brought us one last surprise...another + sign on the ol' pregnancy test! Here we go, again! This time around I felt noticeably more tired. But then again, keeping up with an almost seven year old and an almost four year old probably helped out with my exhaustion factor! Everything was going great, and then our Dr. picked up the heartbeat for the first time with the fetal doppler, she confidently declared, "there
SHE is!" Of course, us having already had two boys, were not as confident. The 20 week ultrasound also proved to be only semi-helpful in confirming Dr. Mickelson's theory. Baby # 3 was not going to give a clear view of anything gender related! Our tech placed her vote in the girl category as well, but I would not be convinced until I saw for myself! So, on November 20th, at 1:16 pm, after only a few hours laboring, and with one final push, we learned not to question Dr. Mickelson! It was a GIRL! I don't know who said it first, but I'm pretty sure I was the one who shouted it loudest. She seemed like such a peanut compared to her brothers. 8 lbs. 1 oz. is small for one of our babies! It took me several hours of simply staring at that little pink hat atop her perfectly round head to really believe that we had a girl. She was MEANT to be. And she made our family complete.
So I guess that is my little walk down memory lane... The journey that has brought us our three miracles; our three greatest joys. The only word I have to sum it all up is,
GRATITUDE.